Katie's Hurt Feelings

I hurt Katie's feelings tonight.

She crawled up into bed and started throwing bobby pins at everyone. I said, stop throwing them. Because I knew, they would clutter the room and eventually I would pick them up and throw them away because Katie just doesn't notice them. And that's fine, that's the way Katie is...her life is busy and hectic and she's constantly running and that's not a bad thing! I'm not upset that she doesn't see those little messy things, because it's her nature and I love her.
However, we JUST cleaned the room and we've all been expressing how much we love the clean room, how orderly it is...how wonderfully clean it is. I pointed out that I didn't want it to get messy.
She said, ok, you can stop being my mother.
And I said, no, Katie, I'm not being your mother, I'm being your roommate. And I have a right to expect that my desk and my bed and my side of the closet and my living area stay clean, especially after all three of us put SOOOOO much time into cleaning it yesterday. She just looked hurt and didn't respond and rolled over and apparently went to sleep. I think she's just lying in bed angry and isn't speaking to anyone.

Throwing the bobby pins was a way to get attention because when there's more than just Katie and a friend, when it's a group of people, Katie wants the attention on her. This doesn't define her, it's a small character aspect, and like all character aspects, it has a legitimate motivation and isn't always a negative thing...We're both a little like that but I find myself loving to observe/sit inside my own head more and more as I get older.

I don't know, I'm fearing that Katie will turn this into a cold-shoulder drama instead of an adult discussion. I just want to sleep on it, get over it, think it over rationally, and then discuss it. I hope this happens. I hope this is capable of happening.

And now I want to write poetry, so...new blog!